The Dark Side of Actualization: Going Out Not In.

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I’ve experienced the dark side of actualization many times.

Over the years I’ve become better at recognizing that that’s where I’m headed and turn it around instantaneously.

But the urge is often still there.

And I often see others, especially those new to self-actualization, do themselves and others a disservice by going outwards, not inwards.

And in the beginning of my journey through this soul + prosperity stuff, I know I annoyed quite a few friends with my proselytizing and feelings of “this is how it should be done now!”

Whenever I experienced a new idea, thought, pattern, break-through in my actualization (a lifelong process I define as learning to live my best life; mind, body + spirit) I will often think, after a superficial examination of it working in my own life, “I bet that could help _____ .”

I would like to say that I believe it comes from a completely altruistic place.

But that wouldn’t be true.

It comes from a place of distraction.

It’s way easier to think of how something could help someone else or how someone else could be better if they just did (BLANK).

It takes considerably more courage and patience to take a new piece of the self-actualization puzzle and just sit with it yourself.

It’s not easy to thoroughly acknowledge how something could work in your life and implement it.

It takes time. But it’s worth it.

Going over to the dark side only alienates others and sabotages your own success.

But going over to the light side? That’s where magic happens.

And the best way to serve the world, including your friends and loved ones, is to live as an example.

Like the saying goes, people will do what you do, not what you say.